Words: Team THINKWELLNESS360
For most people sensuality and sex are synonymous. They are not, although there may be a definite connection. The physical fizz depends on how you want it to be — a sensual lover, who brings one’s sensuality into the lovemaking process and also sex into the sensual experience and vice versa.
It is, of course, an accepted fact that sensuality holds the key for a rich sexual expression. It is also a fundamental part of conjugal happiness. It must, however, be remembered that sexuality is not the only criterion for sensual expression.
Sensuality is much broader and deeper — it begins with awareness, including the exploration and experiencing of all our senses.
Sensuality is an art — it is a mode of fully experiencing life through awareness, presence, and the exploration of your senses. It encompasses the little things of life, which we often take for granted.
You don’t have the time for it, but it seems to come suddenly into your being, and you feel that you are transformed. So, what was till now a routine part of your love life, becomes beautiful — a long-cherished sensual journey. This, of course, happens only when you seek, or re-discover, the component — not otherwise.
Either way, you need to make a beginning — because, a sensual approach begins with showing up, noticing, and hopefully enjoying what your love life is presenting you. You need to become a part of all the five senses and delve deep into its inner channels — to promote your relationship to being sensual and natural:
- Vision. You need to see, and perceive
- Hearing. You need to listen to your inner feelings
- Taste. You need to develop a feel for things
- Smell. You need to smell and take pleasure in the delight the sense of smell itself brings to your life
- Touch. You need to reach out, tap, and create an atmosphere of ‘being in the zone’ with yourself and your partner.
In other words, you need to be focused and develop a keen state of mind. You need to look at the positives — because, getting into the ‘root’ of a sensual experience is easy. It is like eating a chocolate or enjoying a splendid meal, meditating, or practicing pranayama.
It is also like walking in a park, being close to nature, smelling the grass, eating your favourite dish, looking at your partner in the eye, or pursuing a hobby. Imagine the inexplicable delight they all bring to you — so naturally, without any prompt. You could do this to your sensuality too, and bring in freshness — something much better than ever before into your sex life.
You need to also remember that sensuality goes beyond your five senses — besides, it is not only made up of awareness and intuition, it also has something that goes beyond feelings alone. The best way you can make sensuality work for you is by allowing it to expand your passion and bringing more joy into everyday living — even in the face of challenges in your life, career, or relationship.
Isn’t this one great way for you to get into the real intensity of sensuality — one that will sure make you a more mature, loving person? In other words, a person who recognises the significance of enhancing the art of loving and being loved — practically every day.
So far, so good. However, the only way you’d make it happen is — you need to be fully conscious of your inherent passion. Otherwise, you will never experience mature sensual love.
Why? Because, relationships should always evolve, so also sensuality — they are not stationary just as well. So, if you do not put your maximum effort to maximise them, or their potential for growth and expansion, you will not only ignore, and neglect, your partner, but also bring discord into your relationship and life.
So — practice the art of loving and ensure that your relationship grows. As it grows, your ‘sensuality meter’ will also soar.
