Hurt Of The Matter


Words: Dr Rajgopal NIDAMBOOR

When we think of awareness, or conscious receptiveness, most of us go through a state of perplexity. As we become attentive to our emotions, we also think as if we are subject to a plethora of warped emotional feelings. It takes time to understand such feelings — more so, to figure out what these emotions really are. Taking time does not mean the hour-hand ticking, or the seconds, or minutes, slipping by in your wristwatch. It is merely the ‘time-gap’ we all go through between taking charge of our emotions and learning to emote what we feel.

Taking control may not always be related to logical understanding, or experiential awareness. It simply connotes the difference between interpolating your emotions and expressing them. All of us have the innate, or given, ability to understand and decipher events, reactions and responses of our and also other peoples’ feelings. However, to experientially understand and emotionally appreciate such feelings calls for acceptance — to set free the event, or feeling, and tell ourselves that we are no longer affected by issues that wobbled, or disturbed, us before. This means the more open we are, the better it is for us and also for others. When we allow ourselves to deal with our emotional issues, without creating the ripple effect, we not only connect events in our lives, but also bring our feelings closer to others’ emotions.

We all seem to remember certain events in our life that we had long forgotten. This is because these emotions were ‘deposited’ in the locker-room of our consciousness — thanks to certain painful feelings of the past. These are often childhood memories. Have you not experienced such memories from your childhood, previously forgotten, returning suddenly, as if in a flash, with their associated emotions? This is actually a good turn, because you are now much better prepared, or equipped, to dealing with them.

Most of our emotions, and also our conscious awareness, emerge from our dreams, besides events that happen in our daily life. When you dream of a lake overflowing, your emotions may be a source of concern. Likewise, you sometimes dream of painful situations that seem so real — you wake up with a jolt and sob. You are also startled, but you know not what it is that aroused you from your slumber, so unexpectedly.

We would all do well to understand and recognise the fact that our mind is an influential friend — not an adversary that rules our psyche like an autocrat. The more you remind yourself that it is possible to work through issues and mend your emotions, you will emerge with a higher power. This will help to provide yourself with the resources you need to combat distasteful feelings, or thoughts. The best thing to do, in the process, is to listen to your heart, acknowledge your feelings, and liberate the emotional baggage of ‘hurt’ that you experienced.

There is nobody on planet earth that has not felt hurt, or never been hurt. Hurt, big or small, is akin to a wound. It needs to be healed, or eased out of the system — because, bottled-up hurtful feelings don’t do anyone good. It is like keeping the mind’s pressure valve at bay. If you don’t allow unwanted, hurtful feelings to slip their way out, you will not be in a position to know your distress from the inside-out. This will also trouble your mind, and your relationships, in ways that you cannot visualise. The best thing to do is to eliminate unpleasant emotions, gently — this is the first step to embrace and lead a happy, vibrant life.

Dr RAJGOPAL NIDAMBOOR, PhD, is a wellness physician-writer-editor, independent researcher, critic, columnist, author and publisher. His published work includes hundreds of newspaper, magazine, web articles, essays, meditations, columns, and critiques on a host of subjects, eight books on natural health, two coffee table tomes and an encyclopaedic treatise on Indian philosophy. He is Chief Wellness Officer, Docco360 — a mobile health application/platform connecting patients with Ayurveda, homeopathic and Unani physicians, and nutrition therapists, among others, from the comfort of their home — and, Editor-in-Chief, ThinkWellness360.

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