‘Up’ Your Love Quotient


Words: Dr Deborah OLENEV

I had the privilege of spending time recently with two people I love very much. The couple loved each other very much too. The problem was that communication had broken down between the two of them, and resentment had piled up so high that they had forgotten how much they loved each other.

I listened to the complaints of each of them individually to understand their point-of-view. The following morning, a few inspired words came to me. I shared them with the couple, and laughter, a sense of humour, and happiness, replaced the arrows of bitterness that had been flying between them.

Here are the inspired words:

Before you say anything, think:

  • Is it loving?
  • Is it kind?
  • Is it necessary?

Things To Do

  • Look at your partner when they are speaking to you. Maintain eye contact
  • Compliment your partner three times a day [We had a lot of fun with this]
  • Tell your partner you love them at least twice a day [Enjoy the counting]
  • Perform loving acts as often as you can. If you are a man open the car door for your partner
  • Do nurturing acts, such as bringing a cup of tea, or a plate of cut fruit to your partner
  • If you are a woman offer to pay for the meal when you eat out every once in a while. Take turns to treat and being treated.

Remember, above all, that beyond being a man, or woman, your partner is a human being and wants more than anything else:

  • To feel loved
  • To feel nurtured
  • To feel special
  • To feel respected
  • To be seen and valued. 

Focus On Positives

Ignore the flaws you perceive in your partner. Do not mention them, or draw attention to them. None of us is perfect. If you want to strive for perfection yourself — then ignore the imperfections of others. This is your perfection.

Practice the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Before you say, or do, anything make sure it passes the ‘Golden Rule.’

Level with your partner. If you want, or need, something, speak your truth in a loving manner, and be ready to listen to your partner’s truth. This is loving communication. Loving and open communication are the glue that hold a marriage, or relationship, together.

Remember the ‘Self,’ or ‘I,’ sense in yourself is exactly identical to the ‘Self,’ or ‘I,’ sense in your partner and every being on this planet. That ‘Self,’ or ‘I,’ is the in-dwelling god in all of us. That ‘being-ness,’ which we all share connects all of us. You and your partner are not two individual people. In the ultimate sense, you are ‘One.’ So, show your partner the same love you feel for yourself. You are a divine being, and so are they.

If you have nothing to say, remain silent.

The Homeopathic Connect

Homeopathy is about improving our health — with the guidance of a professional homeopathic physician. Having healthy relationships is central to feeling well. Improving the relationships, we have with people, removes the obstacle to cure us of unhappiness. It also spreads light and goodness to people we come in contact with.

Dr DEBORAH OLENEV, CCH, RSHom [NA], is a Classical Homeopath based in Mountain View, California, US. She treats people from all over the world via phone and video conferencing. Dr Olenev has had a passion for homeopathy for nearly forty years and has been in private practice since 1991. She has a vast knowledge of homeopathic Materia Medica, and integrates homeopathy with herbal medicine too. She is the owner of First Aid Cream, where she teaches about and sells homeopathic first-aid creams. She has several years of experience treating autistic children and people of all ages for all manner of health conditions.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

thirty seven  −  thirty two  =  

This site uses cookies to offer you a better browsing experience. By browsing this website, you agree to our use of cookies.