Words: Dr Christine LASCHKOLNIG
Homeopathy not only offers help when the body rebels, and the past catches up with the present, but also when relationships reach a point of crisis — often cumulating in the feeling of being trapped and having lost one’s freedom.
In many cases unresolved problems and enmeshments with parents stand in the way of a satisfying relationship, leading to a lack of mutual understanding in everyday life. The more intense a relationship, the more quickly repressed parent-child conflicts surface. They usually get worse when a child is born and expands the family system. In many instances, both partners cannot cope with the roles that they should assume as parents. Far from being adult and mature themselves, they are suddenly confronted with being responsible for their children. They are often left to their own resources by society and elders; it is not surprising when their partnership heads into a serious crisis.
Women who turn to homeopathy for the treatment of their children, often have to face particular difficulties if the partner is not ready to perceive the limits of conventional medicine. It is a great challenge for women to stand by their knowledge and intuition. Their confrontation with a sick child brings up their own parent-child patterns, particularly any unresolved conflicts. Their own inner conflicts are often mirrored in the child — and, are a severe test for the partnership.
The Deeper Meaning
One deeper meaning of partnership is to become aware of our wounds and those of our ancestors; only then will we be able to heal them. Whether we like it, or not, we choose our partners according to early bonding patterns we experienced as infants. These patterns act as blueprints that are mapped on our partnerships.
Women often report the injuries, ignorance, disrespect and lack of appreciation they endure in their partnerships. A closer look often reveals that their feelings of inferiority can be traced back far beyond their partnership. The partner is a reflection of their own ego.
In an intimate relationship we can’t hide behind the masks we usually wear in our public and professional life.
A well-selected homeopathic remedy that relates to this lack of self-esteem can provoke big steps in development. The relationship patterns start to change. At their second appointment, women often tell me that suddenly they managed to act in a way that they never deemed possible before. They defend themselves in situations where they used to be helpless; they are able to claim and sort out things that they have carried unspoken for a long time. Suddenly, they stand up to their partner, and thereby also allow him to stir from his gridlocked position.
Their attitude is no longer purely defined by their environment, but supported by their own inner strength — they have moved from a place of reacting to a place of action.
Homeopathic Healing Process
Let me illustrate, to you, dear reader, just two ‘relationship’ cases, among sundry, that I treated successfully, enumerated in the patients’ own words — to bring home the point for easy comprehension and understanding.
Case-1
Before. “I bear the whole responsibility for the family, I am overloaded, have a low threshold of tolerance. I feel my tears, but I can’t really cry. I work on my relationship. Closeness does not seem possible in this relationship; there are too many injuries. I also felt neglected by my mother. I love my husband dearly, but we have so many problems. He is inattentive and never gives me the feeling he likes me. I am exhausted; I have to care for everybody and everything. I shoulder responsibility for everything, and don’t give others the chance to do so.”
After. “I am aware of my inner strength and can show what I can do. I have my feet on the ground and have confidence in myself. The homeopathic remedy has opened my floodgates and removed a layer; it has contributed to my unfolding. I am able to feel my softness. Now, I am very satisfied with my life. The remedy put me in the right place. I am happy with my family and my partner. I am happy in the morning when I go to work. I have finally landed in the right place in my life. I feel well-equipped for my journey, and hope it will lead me further towards inner strength, tranquillity and joy. I feel a quiet, inner smile.”
Case- 2
Before. “The contact between my mother and father was reduced to a minimum. There has never been a comfortable atmosphere.”
After. “I am fine, many things have happened. For the first time, I managed to have a long and intense conversation with my mother and told her about my feelings about her. I even could tell her my worries. Since then we have had a wonderful relationship and she gets visibly livelier. In the wake of our communication, she was even able to get in touch with my father again. My emotions have changed. Now I perceive my mother as a relaxed and balanced person.”
